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Hi guys,
I haven't posted on here for a good 6 months or so.
Back in March my whole world and life got tipped on its head. My wife of 8 years turfed me out of home for almost unknown reasons, and a month later I found out she had been having an affair with another guy much younger than her.
Life as I knew it had changed forever. The hurt, pain and stress of it all took its toll and I ended up in a pretty bad way mentally. I dropped a heap of weight and found just living was a bit of a struggle. We also have 3 young kids under 10 to consider.
I thought I could get thru it and reconcile with her, but she hasn't shown much interest even tho the young guy has told her he wants nothing to do with her (she still thinks it may work).
For a while I was couch surfing at mates houses, living in caravan parks and camping in my car for a while.
So I pushed thru it, dusted myself off and I'm finding that things are slowly getting better for me. I've started a new relationship which is going well so I guess that's taken my mind off things lately.
I know each situation is different and others have gone thru a lot worse than me. But when does the anger and pain end? I'm still very hurt by what happened! Even tho the wife and I actually get along quite well now - I'm still guttered and very disappointed by what happened. The most important thing is that I have the kids 2 nights a week, and neither of us would ever use the kids as an excuse to try and hurt each other.
The settlement has been signed and I let her buy me out so the kids weren't displaced to much as far as having to move house. I guess that was a positive seeing it was done so quickly and cost us next to nothing.
I'll be okay - there were very dark times but I'm back on the up and moving forward. I've been told I'm in for a 2 year roller coaster emotionally. Geez this crap can really get to you and do bad things to you!!
I haven't posted on here for a good 6 months or so.
Back in March my whole world and life got tipped on its head. My wife of 8 years turfed me out of home for almost unknown reasons, and a month later I found out she had been having an affair with another guy much younger than her.
Life as I knew it had changed forever. The hurt, pain and stress of it all took its toll and I ended up in a pretty bad way mentally. I dropped a heap of weight and found just living was a bit of a struggle. We also have 3 young kids under 10 to consider.
I thought I could get thru it and reconcile with her, but she hasn't shown much interest even tho the young guy has told her he wants nothing to do with her (she still thinks it may work).
For a while I was couch surfing at mates houses, living in caravan parks and camping in my car for a while.
So I pushed thru it, dusted myself off and I'm finding that things are slowly getting better for me. I've started a new relationship which is going well so I guess that's taken my mind off things lately.
I know each situation is different and others have gone thru a lot worse than me. But when does the anger and pain end? I'm still very hurt by what happened! Even tho the wife and I actually get along quite well now - I'm still guttered and very disappointed by what happened. The most important thing is that I have the kids 2 nights a week, and neither of us would ever use the kids as an excuse to try and hurt each other.
The settlement has been signed and I let her buy me out so the kids weren't displaced to much as far as having to move house. I guess that was a positive seeing it was done so quickly and cost us next to nothing.
I'll be okay - there were very dark times but I'm back on the up and moving forward. I've been told I'm in for a 2 year roller coaster emotionally. Geez this crap can really get to you and do bad things to you!!