G'day
I reckon the problem now is simply the lack of values, the reason us old farts are targeted by these dropkicks as some of us still have old school values, and we were taught the value of giving your word and right from wrong, many of these things are long gone and I am not saying this loss of respect for others is just younger people as I have seen some samples of older people being the same as well, just get some gold in the equation and you will soon see some of them turn.
I would prefer someone being straight up and saying, "I changed my mind", or "You sound like a dick so I don't want it now", or "You smell funny", I can deal with that but I don't understand what they get out of being an asshole themselves and then trying to lay the blame on you even though you have bent over backwards to do the right thing by them, and even the fact that they believe in their little peanut brains that they were the victim not you, simply amazes me.
Too many people these days are blaming their lack of becoming a useful member of society on their child hoods and how they were brought up, the victim mentality is rife, as nowadays as soon they are caught doing something wrong they immediately take the I'm the victim attitude instead of standing up and being accountable for their actions, if crap child hoods and slap happy parents, teachers, neighbors, older siblings and so on were the reason for people becoming like that later in life then I should be king of the crop, but that was life back then and we just thought it was normal but its also that our parents, grand parents and so on who had a worse time of it than we did, but they still maintained solid values of how to deal with others.
cheers
stayyerAU